I want to take a moment to speak to young men who are seeking a wife, also, to young ladies wanting a husband.
Young man, if you have an addiction to pornography, do not be deceived to believe that marriage is going to fix this for you. Please deal with this sin BEFORE you marry. Pray, repent, confess your sin; go to men you trust to help overcome this sin first. You will hurt and destroy another person if you do not do this first.
Young woman, if you have such an addiction, I advise you to do the same. If you do not have such a struggle and begin to suspect the young man you are dating-courting has this problem…RUN AWAY as fast as you can unless he is willing to admit his sin and deal with it BEFORE he marries you.
This is my advice to my daughters.
Please…PLEASE…take this advice.
Also, elders and parents, please do not facilitate this false idea either. I repeat…MARRIAGE DOES NOT FIX this kind of DESTRUCTIVE SIN…rather this sin–crouching at the door, ready to devour–will destroy the marriage and the home and ALL the lives involved.
Self-control, by prayer, the word of God, in the Holy Spirit and openness and honesty, IS POSSIBLE. It is our promise that we are partakes of the divine nature…in Christ all things are possible. Amen.
Come and hear, all you who fear God, and I will tell what he has done for my soul. I cried to him with my mouth, and high praise was on my tongue. If I had cherished iniquity in my heart, the Lord would not have listened. But truly God has listened; he has attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God, because he has not rejected my prayer or removed his steadfast love from me!
Psalm 66:16-20 ESV